Once again, I’m breaking from my planned topic. The rain is starting to fall and winds are starting to blow here where I am in NY. I have to say, I just can’t seem to stay focused on writing today as Hurricane Sandy is coming ashore and is bound to affect our area starting this evening.
So, instead of sharing my words, I’m sharing those from 72 Hour Club members!!
These are some of the shared comments from others who have taken the 72 Hour Club challenge, and I’d love to hear yours!!
Don’t know about this 72 Hour Club challenge? Read more about it here.
What changes, if any, are you beginning to see in your desire for sexual intimacy? Is more regular attention to your sex life increasing your sexual desire?
I actually initiate sex now. It’s kind of new for me. I long to be intimate with my husband at the end of the day, instead of dreading staying up for 30 – 45 minutes longer. My sexual desire is definitely increasing.
Yes, I have seen this — before I was the girl that could go WEEKS without “needing” sex — and now, I really do want to have regular/consistent sex-sessions!
I think it might be working against me…I find myself saying, “Has it been more than 72 hours…no? Great!” Needing to work on my attitude. Ugh.
One challenge for me is making sure I’m 100% involved in our sex life and not thinking about other things or my to-do list. I think paying regular attention to our sex life is helping with this.
Regular attention to our sex life isn’t exactly what’s increasing my desire. The emotional connection my husband and I are creating is what drives me to want to have intimacy with him.
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What changes, if any, are you beginning to see in your relationship with your husband outside of the bedroom? Is more regular attention to your sex life positively affecting other areas of your relationship?
He seems much more in tune with our family dynamics, jumps up to take care of the kids, eager to help clean/pick up/do laundry/ finish his to-do list. We have decided together that his bedroom sessions create a better environment for us all — and I love the benefits that I get in the bedroom too now. I am really enjoying myself!
We are definitely seeing a deeper connection outside of the bedroom. In fact, for us, it is very hard to get a date night (no family and no job), but my husband has been very eager to do this. He is looking for a way for us to slip away after dinner this weekend just for an hour or so…and we are flirting more!
More sex = nicer husband! We are more patient with each other when sex is regular. We are more likely to work at communication when sexually satisfied!
Yes I think it is because I think it’s making me more loving toward him in general, easier to offer words of encouragement to him.
I am noticing the garbage is always taken out as well as other random chores being done. Not that my husband is lazy, but he usually needs a little reminder . But not lately! My husband is also more handsy….lol. I have noticed he will surprise me with a back rub while I’m making dinner or just sitting on the couch.
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Are you a 72 Hour Club Member? What changes are you noticing, both in yourself and in your relationship?
Want to be in the club? The commitment to making sexual intimacy in your marriage a priority by engaging in sex or other physical intimacy with your spouse at least once every 72 hours.
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I’m about a week and a half into this little experiment and WOW! what a difference it has made in my marriage. We are both more patient with each other and more in sync in our parenting. It truly is like we are becoming one. I’ve also noticed that it has been hard to tell who is initiating a sexual encounter. We both feed off of each others’ little advances and innuendos throughout the day and by the end of the day, there is no question about whether or not we will be making love!
And to your first question… yes, absolutely yes! I have been much more sexually responsive and much more “in the mood.” It really helps to spend the day sending him suggestive messages and thinking of how I’m going to lure him into the bedroom at the day’s end.
BUT, not every day has been perfect. I”m wondering what others do when their little hints aren’t received and responded to. Do you keep dropping those hints hoping he’ll catch on, or do you drop it and assume that he is just not going to be “in the mood” tonight? I don’t want to seem like a pest if he is really not wanting it… and it of course sets me up for rejection if I keep throwing myself out there. This was the case this morning… I hinted and he didn’t seem to embrace the hint as eagerly as usual. Do I keep it up or give him space?
It has really been helping us focus on God more. We are working on serving each other better and communicating more. One challenge is not getting sleepy after we eat, yet not having “time for it” before we eat. Gotta work on the “when” in the evening aspect!
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I love this concept. I’ve been trying…so what do we do if its nit reciprocated. We’ve been married almost 20 years and I’ve rarely asked. I’m asking more often but being turned away. I’m concerned but he simply says he’s getting old.
ocean, my husband shared with me awhile ago that when i ask, he often doesn’t believe me because for years i was the one saying “no”. perhaps your husband shares the fear of rejection or has felt rejected by you in the bedroom and can’t believe there has been a change. it’s hard for men to open up and be vulnerable. maybe you need to ask him if he feels rejected. that might start you two on the path to healing.
persist and be willing to own what’s yours to own. and remember that sexual intimacy is a spiritual thing, so our enemy is going to be active to try to thwart, discourage, distort, and defeat you. do not let him win!
hope that helps. my husband persisted for 10 years with me before we got to a much different place.
Are you leaving hints throughout the day? Perhaps priming the pump with text messages and suggestive comments/touches throughout the day might get him thinking in advance of all the fun you might have later
continuing to work hard at being available for him. it’s natural for me to be fine with “going without”. i see the act differently and am trying to make it be “intimate” but it’s hard for me. my past really damaged me in this area, and of course, it’s the ONE thing that my hubby is missing from me. oy. trying hard, i really am!
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Once I tuned my husband into the Club, he’s been quite enthusiastic. He’s usually asleep long before I am, but we’ve hit 72 hours for the last couple weeks. Mostly he’s been more responsive and willing to help me with the chores I don’t like (he went grocery shopping with me and our daughter this evening!) I think starting this just 5 years in will help us, as long as we keep this up. Thank you for the accountability and inspiration!
I’ve been doing this for about a month now and am seeing huge success! I’ve also been talking to my husband a lot about our “love” life and what it really means to him, and what he needs from me. It’s not just sex. We both crave and desire that emotional intimacy from each other. And since I’ve been more “spunky” about sex (about intimacy with him, making him happy) our lives are so much better for it. Calmer, sweeter, flirty-er, happier, better!